Long distance relationships, to the eyes of some, may seem deceiving/doubtful, and a relationship that is automatically doom to fail. The fact of this is that there is still skepticism surrounding the validity of them. This could be why some of us may feel that breaking the news to friends and family about being in a long distance relationship could have been or may be difficult and quite an awkward or draining situation.
It sure takes a great amount of courage to do this, more when we are aware that although this can bring a relief to us, it can potentially be a subject of criticism and comments out of place. Of course there may be people who will always support our decisions, no questions asked. Therefore, the comments we’ve heard while being in a long distance relationship may, in some cases, vary.
“I’m a guy, I have my necessities therefore I would not be able to do it”
Necessities? Being in a relationship is not only about necessities either for just men and/or women. Of course there are “down sides” of being in a long distance relationship, and for the majority of us, the major one could be physical contact. Yet, it takes much more than physical contact to have, what can be considered, a successful relationship. Fortunately, this is something that as long distance lovers, we are able to learn and exercise on an everyday basis.
“Where you looking for a relationship online?”
Maybe, maybe not. This is an answer that varies among people, and it’s completely acceptable! From my own experience and from what I’ve seen and heard, it simply happens. Whether or not you went looking for an online relationship with someone from abroad is completely your decision. Maybe it was totally unexpected and unplanned but you’re thankful it happened. Sometimes a conversation with somebody online/app/social media turns into much more than a simple random chat with a stranger. Case might be you might’ve been looking for a friend, someone to talk to, to meet someone romantically, etc. and all motives are okay, if they led you to meet someone that may have changed you for the better, even in the most remotely way possible.
“A love from distance is a love of 3 and maybe even 4”
Cheating. This may be a case that could be implied with such words, or similar ones. Truth is no relationship is safe from this, cheating happens everyday whether there are hundreds or thousands of miles in between two individuals or whether you live 5 minutes away from your significant other. I believe that all that matters is the trust that exists in the relationship. At the end of the day, it is there are only two people that make a couple.
“I’m sure you can find somebody here whom you can date without having to go through that distance struggle”
Maybe this is true and can certainly happen, but if dating somebody you truly care for, depended on proximity, well I would be doomed to never finding this special person, and maybe I wouldn’t be the only one. Yet, fortunately this is not the case, and if we are in a relationship with someone that lives far away from us, it is not because we are a fan of the distance but because we fell for an individual who is very special to us. Proximity has nothing to do with the feelings we have for someone, the connection and special bond a couple has.
“How do you know if this person is real/is not lying or hiding things to you about who he really is?”
Valid point. Our significant other may not be physically with us as we might like, but the quality time that is spent texting, talking and calling somewhat makes up for not being able to be together. With that being said, a person doesn’t necessarily needs to be in front of you in order for you to get to know them. Hours and hours in which both lives are intertwined help immensely when getting to know someone if this is the only possible way. My Aussie and I have shared so much about our persona and life events in the past 23 months (19 months as a couple), and counting, that it feels so natural and right to do so. True, he and I may not know each other 100%, but my question is: who really does?
These are some of the comments I’ve “collected” through my ongoing journey of my long distance relationship. A few of these are from family members that have been in successful and unsuccessful long distance relationships. Now, what are some of the comments you’ve encountered or comments that someone you know has encountered about long distance relationships? I encourage you to share them on the comment section.