Having a family member that is not or does not identify themselves as what you had always seen them as, can certainly be confusing.
I never really asked my brother his sexuality, I guess I blindly assumed what this was until about three years ago. The way he revealed this to me was probably not the best way to do so as it was in the middle of a heated argument. I guess, at the time, he probably felt there was never a perfect moment to say it. At first I was confused on why it had taken him so long to come out to me. I asked myself what could have possibly stopped him from doing it for so many years. Did he not trust me enough? Did he believe I was going to judge or reject him for whom he truly was?
A million things went through my head, such as how him coming out would affect our relationship. I thought about how things could change between us. Most of my concerns came from being raised in a family that is very close minded and typically relies and exercises heavily gender roles. I was worried on how my family would see it and whether they would accept him or not in the future.
I admit it took me a few days to digest his words.
After a couple of days, I realized things did not have to change between us. He was still going to be my younger brother, my only brother. Yet, if things were bound to change, I would adapt to those changes for the better. In a way I feel that him trusting me with this had only brought us closer. I know he still does not confide with me blindly, and neither do I, which I find acceptable, we’re still siblings that sometimes collide.
As an older sister, I continue to be protective towards him, although I guess he protects me the most, and support him because regardless of his sexual preferences or what he identifies himself as, he is still my younger brother and that will never change.
We live in a world that even to this day, is hard. People and ideologies make it very hard for a person to fully embrace who they truly are. Even though I feel we’ve come a long way, I still believe acceptance towards the other, the “unknown”, is still something new, specially when it comes to gender identity and sexual preferences. These are my beliefs, not the ones I was brought up with, but the ones I have grasped throughout the years. My family has mostly centered their beliefs through a very conservative perspective, whereas I have tried to approach things with an open mind through which I have created my own opinions and reasoning. Everyone is entitled to have different opinions on all matters and their reasoning behind it, and they are respected.